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people come and go in our lives,whenever we meet new friends it always takes time to get to know one another and whenever someone part from us it ll take time to break the bond between both person. Through the Knapp Model of Relational Development it is pretty much clearly stated as to how we form and break bonds in relationships.

In the form of a boy girl relationship be it platonic or romantic the first stage ,Initiating,when boy meets girl or girl sees boy they would each scan the other person to see if the person is approachable or not usually in terms of how they present themselves, how they dress and how they speak and their gestures.

After “scanning” the person,experimenting comes into play where the they feel that the other person seem interesting they would want to get to know the person more and better they would often ask for the other person’s contact number emails etc so as to be able to get more chance to speak to the person more and to hang out with each other as well as to “comfirm” if they really want to create a relationship with the other party.

Platonic relationship often stops at experimenting stage although there are still chances that they become good friends instead of lovers at the intensifying stage. Intensifying of the relationship starts when both parties acknowledged that they are friends and increasing contact with each other slowly they would also start to trust and disclose their feelings although they may be together but at the same time they still have each of their personal space.

At the Intergrating stage,where romantic relationships occurs, couples would then proclaim that they are one as a unit. Over years of Bonding couples they would go through significant public rituals and formalise the obligation of commitment.

However not all couples end up happily married. sometimes when couples starts to feel out-of-place Differentiating occurs, where they would try to reaffirm their individuality in the relationship and intense differentiation would occur and this reflects that both parties may have gone into the relationship too quickly. circumscribing would then happen where they both do not feel like communicating with each other stagnating occurs and at this point in time both would not feel happy as they have before. Avoiding then happens when they do not even want to see the other party and slowly the withdrawing emotionally and physically.when the relationship fails Terminating of the relationship occurs and they both move on.

this stages does not only apply to any boy girl relationships it also occurs in friendships and even kinship. many people may not know that they are actually going through these process in their lives unconsciously. When you get into a new school you would look around and see of there is anyone you can approach and when you start making friends you ll start to know if you really like them and enjoy the company and create new relations. Bonds may break too even if you were the best of friends with lesser and lesser contact with each other and not knowing what both parties are up to people may change and bonds break.

you never know when these relations would end so cherish those around you but at the same time do look out and form more relations who knows what type of people you may meet.

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